If you desire real change, start with moi (yourself). The Scriptures are very clear in this respect.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
No one born of God makes a practice of sinning, for God’s seed abides in him; and he cannot keep on sinning, because he has been born of God.
Give it some thought and let God do the changing.
Gary